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The Ho’ohiki Pilina Program (HPP) is an online class on healthy relationships and pregnancy prevention for youth on Oahu ages 14 – 18. Unhealthy relationships, dating violence, and risky sexual behaviors are a serious threat to the well-being and futures of many young people. Love Notes is a federally approved curriculum that addresses these issues by building conflict resolution and coping skills for healthy relationships of all kinds: romantic, friendship, family, school, and work. Parental Permission required.

Go to https://hpp.koka.org to see more detailed information and enrollment form.

Families are facing unprecedented challenges due to circumstances surrounding COVID-19. In response, we invite you to join our free online support community for parents and caregivers who may have children experimenting with, or dependent on, substances. Helpline specialists and specially trained parent coaches will host a series of live online gatherings to share insight and ideas on managing teen and adult children during this unique time. These gatherings are an opportunity to find support and connection along with tangible guidance on addressing substance use in the home, accessing treatment and ensuring continuous care during this crisis.

Click to register or find out more information: https://parentcoachescorner.us11.list-manage.com

Join us for a presentation on how to talk to your kids about nicotine addiction and vaping. One thing we know is that most youth in Hawaii have been exposed to vaping. A great deal of young people that start vaping say they began because they were exposed to it by a peer. So before someone else speaks to your teens, take this time while they’re at home to talk to them first.


To register for this webinar click here: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register

Parents face more challenges than ever in having effective prevention conversations with their teens around marijuana use. Despite the fact that this drug is more potent than ever, perception of harm is at an all-time low due to legalization, medicinal use and methods of ingesting like vaping and edibles which seem so much easier and more palatable. We can’t give up! In this webinar, we will explore the important role parents play, discuss the landscape of cannabis products our kids may be exposed to and learn how we can reduce the chances of our teens using.

Register here: https://register.gotowebinar.com/register

It’s has come to that time and age when your teen has the desire to join the work force. Or maybe you’d like to teach them more responsibility by getting a part-time job to help prepare them for the real world. Getting a new and first job may be nerve wrecking for your teen, but also exciting.  Having your support and guidance will help.

Here are some tips in how you can help your teen achieve their first job:

  1. Find their interest. Have a conversation with your teen and get a better understanding of what they are looking for in a job. Help your teen to make a list of the things they enjoy, don’t enjoy, their strengths and weaknesses. This will help you both to identify what type of work will be best and most enjoyable for your teen. This will also teach your teen to be more self-aware of the person they are becoming.
  2. Job search. Once their job interest has been decided, support your teen in the job search process, being that it’s their first job. Help them to look online, in the newspaper, asking friends and colleagues, or walking around the mall to see where they are hiring as those might be unadvertised opportunities. If a friend or colleague has put in a word for you and your teen, educate you teen explaining to him or her that they are reflecting those who recommend them so that they can put in their best effort and be respectful.
  3. Out of the Box Thinking. If your teen is unsuccessful in getting a job, help them to create other ways they can get a job through self-employment or becoming an entrepreneur. Maybe they are good in baby-sitting, yard work, house cleaning, cleaning/detailing cars, grocery shopping or walking a pet. Start small and help your teen to advertise their work in the neighborhood. Figure out pricing by calling businesses to see what they charge. Also be sure to educate your child on taxes and getting a license for starting their own business.
  4. Job Applications and Resumes. Your teen may already have learned in school on how to fill out a job application and creating a resume. However, offer them to help create and edit their resume if they need to. Read over their application to make sure that they have filled out the form properly.
  5. Practice Interviewing. Go online and look up questions that are common to ask in interviews. Help them prepare answers to the questions and then role pay. Practicing will help create confidence in your teen to have a successful interview. Throw in questions that your teen is unaware of to help them to think and develop answers on the spot.
  6. Don’t Micromanage. The goal in the job search for your teen is to help guide them through the process, to learn and grow; not doing everything for them. Remember that it is your teen’s job search and not your own. Let them know that you are there for support and that they can ask for your help, but to encourage them to do this independently, as employers look for those who can do work on their own. Catch yourself and make sure you aren’t micromanaging your teen through the job search.
  7. Thank You and Follow-Ups. Encourage your teen to send out a thank you, even if they didn’t get the position. This will help to show that they are respectful and appreciative. Encourage them to also follow-up with the jobs they already interviewed for, to show interest and also to know whether or not they should apply for another job.
  8. Job safety. You might not like the job your teen wants or got hired for. However, the main thing is that they are safe with whatever employment they end up choosing. It’s important that your teen feel safe in their work environment and you know that they are safe as well.

Seeing your teen being molded into an adult can be a scary and exciting experience, especially helping them to get their first job. Every teen is different. The job process could be fairly smooth for one and chaotic for another.  As the parent, utilize these tips and make sure to adjust to your teen so that their experience with the job search will be one they will learn and grow from.