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Enjoy free family fun with a movie night at the Haleiwa gym. All are welcome to join this event sponsored by the Waialua Community Association.

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After a year with no community events, E.K. Fernandez shows is welcoming guests back to Aloha Stadium for the 2021 Aloha Festival. The festival will run for three weekends beginning July 16. It will feature all the classic E.K. Fernandez rides along with food stands, games and entertainment. Aloha Stadium says all COVID-19 guidelines will be followed so that your family can experience all the fun with all the safety.

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Experience the beauty our oceans have to offer and join the fun at the Waikiki Aquarium this summer. Spend the day with Ohana exploring the sea and all its wonderous creatures. Kama’aina with ID are just $8, while your Keiki are $5, and all children under 3 years old are free. Or appreciate all the Aquarium has to offer with their free virtual experiences online. From ocean classes and to virtual lectures, to live webcam footage of your favorite exhibits and more.

Click the link to buy tickets, join a virtual experience or find out more information.


Youth Action Alliance Hawaii (YAAH) is a free virtual program for Hawaii high school students seeking to be civically engaged, take action to address issues in their community, and possess a global understanding of how those issues connect Hawaii with the rest of the world. The program represents a collaboration between three like-minded non-profit organizations – Ceeds of Peace, HawaiiKidsCAN, and the Pacific & Asian Affairs Council – that believe young people are vital to tackling the challenges we face as a society. Each organization will draw on their strengths to oversee a different aspect of the program: global awareness, civic engagement, advocacy training, and community action.

If you are interested please apply here: https://docs.google.com

The Ho’ohiki Pilina Program (HPP) is an online class on healthy relationships and pregnancy prevention for youth on Oahu ages 14 – 18. Unhealthy relationships, dating violence, and risky sexual behaviors are a serious threat to the well-being and futures of many young people. Love Notes is a federally approved curriculum that addresses these issues by building conflict resolution and coping skills for healthy relationships of all kinds: romantic, friendship, family, school, and work. Parental Permission required.

Go to https://hpp.koka.org to see more detailed information and enrollment form.

“The Vatican, the Museum of Museums,” not only houses the extensive collections of art, archaeology and ethno-anthropology gathered by the Popes over the centuries, but also contains some of the Apostolic Palace’s most extraordinary and artistically significant rooms. Now you can visit this beautiful historical site from home.

Visit the museum here: http://www.museivaticani.va

The show will talk to kids about racism, the recent nationwide protests, embracing diversity and being more empathetic and understanding. Big Bird will join CNN commentator Van Jones and CNN anchor and national correspondent Erica Hill to moderate the event. They will be joined by “Sesame Street” characters — including Elmo, Abby Cadabby and Rosita — and other experts answering questions submitted by families.

How to watch: The town hall will air on CNN, CNN International and CNN en Español. It will stream live on CNN.com‘s homepage and across mobile devices via CNN’s apps, without requiring a cable log-in.

Step into Van Gogh’s world in Amsterdam, Netherlands. Explore the world’s largest collection of works by Vincent van Gogh at home. The collection inculeds Van Gogh’s famous paintings and drawings as well as the works of his artist friends and contemporaries. Discover our fine collection of French and Japanese prints.

Click here for the tour: https://artsandculture.google.com/streetview/van-gogh-museum

The Louvre Museum is the world’s largest art museum in Paris, France and a historic monument. Visit the museum’s exhibition rooms, galleries, and contemplate the façades of the Louvre.

Come along on a virtual tour and enjoy the view.



Families are facing unprecedented challenges due to circumstances surrounding COVID-19. In response, we invite you to join our free online support community for parents and caregivers who may have children experimenting with, or dependent on, substances. Helpline specialists and specially trained parent coaches will host a series of live online gatherings to share insight and ideas on managing teen and adult children during this unique time. These gatherings are an opportunity to find support and connection along with tangible guidance on addressing substance use in the home, accessing treatment and ensuring continuous care during this crisis.

Click to register or find out more information: https://parentcoachescorner.us11.list-manage.com

This event is meant to honor mothers for all they do while providing much-needed supplies, resources, and family-friendly activities to those in need. While maintaining guidelines for social distancing, families will be invited to drive through a “festival of support services booths” to receive: groceries; chef prepared meals; CFS Family Lōkahi Kit; Community Resource Kits; PPE advice/items; Teachers (education tips & resources); and more.

Spots will be offered on a first come first serve basis and you must RSVP to attend this free event. To register for a slot, or find out more information click here:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/festival-of-hope

The Met 360° Project is an award-winning series of six short videos invites viewers around the world to virtually visit The Met’s art and architecture in a fresh, immersive way. Created using spherical 360° technology, it allows viewers to explore some of the Museum’s iconic spaces as never before.

Click here to visit: https://www.youvisit.com/tour/themet

The Call to Unite is a 24-hour global livestream event that invites people across the world to celebrate our shared humanity. We will stand in solidarity with those experiencing pain, fear, loneliness, and grief – and offer hope and support as we build a new future together. Featuring Oprah, Common, Daniel Dae Kim, Deepak Chopra, Eva Longoria, Josh Groban, and more.

Join in and watch at https://www.unite.us/#

Need a quarantine challenge? Get the whole family to make an instrument, recreate a Hawaii Artwork, and write your own hip hop rhymes! Then, take the Arts Quarantine Challenge! Join the Zoom webinar to find out how to participate!

Click here to register for the webinar: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register

Join us for a presentation on how to talk to your kids about nicotine addiction and vaping. One thing we know is that most youth in Hawaii have been exposed to vaping. A great deal of young people that start vaping say they began because they were exposed to it by a peer. So before someone else speaks to your teens, take this time while they’re at home to talk to them first.


To register for this webinar click here: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register

Their three virtual tours allow you to step inside the Gallery and explore one of the greatest collections of paintings, from the comfort of your home. From peeks behind the scenes to in-depth looks at the nation’s favorite paintings. Come in and explore over 2,600 works of art in virtual reality through your desktop, phone or VR headset.

visit: https://www.nationalgallery.org.uk/visiting/virtual-tours

Parents face more challenges than ever in having effective prevention conversations with their teens around marijuana use. Despite the fact that this drug is more potent than ever, perception of harm is at an all-time low due to legalization, medicinal use and methods of ingesting like vaping and edibles which seem so much easier and more palatable. We can’t give up! In this webinar, we will explore the important role parents play, discuss the landscape of cannabis products our kids may be exposed to and learn how we can reduce the chances of our teens using.

Register here: https://register.gotowebinar.com/register

The partnership of Ceeds of Peace, Women’s Fund of Hawai`i and the American Association of University Women (AAUW) Honolulu Branch is launching a FREE online summer leadership program called Girls Talk Back. High school girls will learn leadership and community organizing skills from experienced educators and renowned mentors from our community. Participants will have the opportunity and guidance to launch and lead action plans to address community issues they care about. They will receive support and guidance from community mentors and partnership staff beyond the course of the program.

Sign up for free here: http://bit.ly/gtb2020

Want to take a family excursion from the safety of your own home? The Smithsonian, National Museum of Natural History virtual tours allow visitors to take self-guided, room-by-room tours of select exhibits and areas within the museum from their desktop or mobile device. Visitors can also access select collections and research areas at our satellite support and research stations as well as past exhibits no longer on display.


The Hawai`i Children’s Action Network (HCAN) has created a website that identifies resources for families, including food, child care, financial information, and COVID-19 screening sites. Utilizing both online and local Hawai’i resources, the site compiles a wealth of information to help families navigate in these difficult times.  https://covid19.hawaii-can.org/

The internet is a great technological advancement, but doesn’t come without the negative. Today bullying goes beyond physical harassment at school – it’s on a worldwide platform now. Cyberbullying is the new form of bullying.

Understanding cyberbulling

So, what is cyberbullying? It is the use of technology to harass, threaten, embarrass, or target another person. With most kids using technology differently than adults do, it can be hard to understand how online bullying occurs. Starting at an early age, teens spend a significant amount of time in the digital world – playing games, sending texts, and engaging with peers on social media.

Cyberbully can involve embarrassing or private images as well as negative or hurtful language. It involves sharing information intended to cause embarrassment or humiliation. What makes cyberbullying even more difficult for teens is that content shared online is persistent, and sometimes permanent. The pervasive nature of technology reduces safe spaces for teens. Youth can be harassed, threatened, intimidated, or humiliated by peers even when they’re at home.

Cyberbullying has become pervasive because the technology makes it easy. “Faceless” bullying occurs anonymously when someone creates fake account for purposes of trolling or harassing. Unfortunately, sending a mean text, leaving that harsh comment, posting that embarrassing picture is easy, fast, and simple.

Recent studies about cyberbullying rates have found that about 1 in 4 teens have been the victim of cyberbullying and about 1 in 6 admit to have cyberbullied someone. In some studies, more than half of teens surveyed said that they’ve experienced abuse through social media. Here in Hawaii, over 20% of middle schooler reported that have experienced cyberbullying.

Impact on youth

Cyberbullying can happen anywhere and at any time of the day. If your child is experiencing cyberbullying, they may exhibit behaviors indicating there is a problem. Signs of cyberbullying may vary but can include:

  • Being emotionally upset during or after using the Internet or the phone
  • Being very secretive or protective of one’s digital life
  • Withdrawal from family members, friends, and activities
  • Avoiding school or group gatherings
  • Slipping grades and “acting out” in anger at home
  • Changes in mood, behavior, sleep, or appetite
  • Wanting to stop using the computer or cellphone
  • Being nervous or jumpy when getting an instant message, text, or email
  • Avoiding discussions about computer or cellphone activities

If you are seeing these behaviors, talk to your child about what you’re seeing. Express your unconditional support. Take the time to listen and find out what’s happening without overreacting. If necessary, seek help. Kids sometimes feel more comfortable talking to a third party like a school counselor or mental health therapist.

What parents can do

When children are given access to devices that provide a window to the online world, it’s important the interaction is monitored. For younger kids, know their passwords, use search blocks, and be aware of what apps they use. For older adolescents, set the groundwork for safety, follow your child’s social media accounts, and encourage them to interact with their friends outside the digital sphere. You can’t fully protect your child from becoming a victim of cyberbullying, but it could minimize the opportunity. Many youth logged on their Instagram, snapchat, or twitter and chatting or sending direct messages most of the day. Sometimes kids are posting things of themselves in a manner that might be inappropriate for their age level. Staying involved in your child’s cyber world is where protecting can start. As as parent, you can set guidelines and boundaries around technology use, educate your child about online risks, and encourage them to discuss when they feel intimidated or shamed by others.

Encourage your teen to not respond to cyberbullying because by doing so it adds more fuel to the fire and may make the situation worse. But document all conversations, threatening messages, pictures, texts, etc. so it can be used as evidence with whoever the other party, school, parents, or even the police.

So what if your child is the bully?  Deal with the issue at hand, straight up, no sugar coating it. But don’t be too harsh on them. Find out the story, and what is really going on. Be firm about their actions not being okay, and the consequences that come with those actions. Try to make them see that if it was the other way around how they would feel about it. Help them see the whole picture not just their version of the story. Bullying in any form isn’t acceptable and there can be serious consequences at home, school and in the community. They might not see all the damage they are causing, help them put it into perspective. Be sure you are modeling healthy online behavior for your teens.

Overall, be there for your teen and help them grow into mature adults. Family support goes a long way as teens try to find their way in an ever-changing world. If they are struggling with things you might not know how to help with, encourage them to talk with a therapist. Bottom line, be involved in their cyber world, and in the real world.

Milk and Honey

By Rupi Kaur

This is book that has a collection of poetry that explores a variety of themes ranging from love, loss, trauma, healing, femininity, migration, and revolution. Divided into four chapters, each chapter serves a different purpose, different pain, heals a different heartache.

I Am Malala: The Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban

By Malala Yousafzai

This story is about a young woman who decided to fight for women’s right to education when this fundamental right was taken away, an inspiring young woman with an incredible story of perseverance and strength.

The Four Agreements; A Practical Guide to personal Freedom

By don Miguel Ruiz

The Four Agreements reveals the sources of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Its message encourages to act from truth, and our own level of understanding. It’s a great book to lay down some framework for a more positive and self-aware lifestyle.

I Can’t Make This Up: Life Lessons

By Kevin Hart

Born an accident, unwanted by his parents. His father was a drug addict who was in and out of jail. His brother was a crack dealer and thief. His mother was strict and abusive. Through amazing insight he shares how the only thing he had control over was his response to it and how he worked hard in the face of many setbacks.

Adulting 101: #Wisdom4Life

By Josh Burnette and Pete Hardesty

Basic life skills go mostly untaught in classrooms, so graduates are on their own to figure out how to live successfully in the world. Without any guidance, where do they start?

Challenger Deep

By Neal Shusterman

An important story about a boy struggling with severe mental illness, and the poignant journey about finding oneself. It’s a journey of how we get through our daily lives in the best way we know how.

Involvement in community or extracurricular activities provides terrific opportunities for your teen to develop skills, expand their interests, and stay healthy. There are many different kinds of activities available through their school or the community. Sports, dance, art, music, clubs or summer camps are just a few of the ways you child can expand their world and increase engagement with others. Talk to your teen about their interests and see how you can get them involved.

Extracurricular activities provide the opportunity to meet other teens and make new friendships. It can help your teen to interact with other peers similar in age who they might not otherwise engage with. Learning to get along with other peers from different backgrounds is a key social skill that will help your child throughout their life. It can also teach your teen to work well with others in the group settings and how to be part of a team. It’s a great way to build their confidence! Participating in community or after school activities allows teens to build different life skills.

Teens who participate in extracurricular activities tend to do better academically and will help them when applying for college. It also gives your child something to look forward to on a daily basis, teaches responsibility, develops organizational skills. Teens have the opportunity to learn how to balance their school work load with the other activities going on in their life. For some school-based activities, your child will be required to maintain a certain GPA level. As a parent, you can also require your teen to maintain good grades as a prerequisite for the community-based programs they enjoy. Using different extracurricular activities as motivation to do well in school can help your teen’s grades to improve. As a result your teen will be more disciplined and have better time management skills then other teens.

The final benefit of having your teen participate in extracurricular activities is it can help keep them out of trouble. The more time your teen spends being involved in positive activities, the less time they have to get into mischief. Teens that play sports or are part of a club or organization are also less likely to use drugs and alcohol then those not involved. Teens are mentored by and often find a positive role model in the adults that lead such activities. It is always good for a teen to have someone outside their family to look up to. Keeping your teen involved in the community will help them grow up to be responsible and engaged adults.

Most of us learn about parenting through our experiences being parented. It’s where we get our first cues about how we ought to feel about ourselves and the world around us. Parenting is a big responsibility and it’s not easy. There is no perfect child and there is no perfect parent. Having made a mistake doesn’t mean you a failed parent. It’s about taking responsibility, forgiving yourself, and moving forward. 

When challenge arise and things don’t go as planned, you can recover. By being self-aware and having compassion for yourself, you can overcome common parenting missteps.  

  1. Taking out your anger and frustration on your teens. There will be certain behaviors that will make you want to lash out at your adolescent. Feelings of frustration, anger, and disappointment can arise when a teen fails to engage in expected or desired behavior. When this happens, it can sometimes be challenging to remain calm. When parents lose it, kids catch on and learn what will make their parents respond. After an angry reaction, taking responsibility for your own actions can be a learning opportunity for your teen. Even when kids misbehave, it’s alright to acknowledge it when you wish you had responded differently. Let them know the next time you get frustrated with a decision they make, that give yourself some space, and then come back to discuss the situation.
  2. Inconsistent Discipline. When your teen is acting angry and defiant, it can be challenging to implement consequences. Learning to establish consistent responses is an essential part of effective discipline. Reflect on how you discipline as a parent and become aware of the areas of inconsistency. Was it because you forgot what limit had been set, were you too tired, or maybe you felt like you were being too hard on your teen? Whatever the reason, identify your challenge and make a plan to change. As the brain continues to develop during adolescence, remember that it’s normal teens to test boundaries. It’s a parent’s role to set limits and enforce them. You are there to help guide them through this transitional time.
  3. Doing too much. When a teen ends up not doing their chores after being told six times, it begins to feel like it’s easier to just do it yourself. However, this teaches your teen they don’t have to follow through on what’s expected and they’ll be rewarded for that behavior. When your teen doesn’t follow through or listen, don’t rescue them. Instead, set clear consequences for not following chores or being accountable. Make sure the consequence will teach them, not punish them.
  4. Ineffective consequences. In a moment of frustration, it’s very easy to blurt out, “You’re grounded for the rest of the summer” or “I’m taking away your cellphone for good.” Stop and ask yourself if such consequences are effective or realistic. Consequences need to teach your teen to change his or her behavior. Forgive yourself as a parent; learn to walk away when the conversation is heated and come back calm. This will help to create well-thought out consequences that will be realistic and appropriate, creating a teachable moment for your adolescent.  Better yet, sit down with your teen and develop consequences for certain behaviors ahead of time, so they are also aware of your expectations of them and the consequences for not following through.

When you notice you’re being hard on your parenting self, remember to not place blame, but to extend compassion to yourself, take responsibility, and plan to make a change. Have realistic expectations or yourself and your teenager. Modeling accountability, self-awareness, and growth will help instill those values in your child.